Tuesday, November 13, 2007

praying for my husband

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I just can't believe how all the way, totally, deeply, madly, completely, remarkably in love I am with my husband these days.

It's not like I hated him before. I've always loved him. Since we were married when I was the tender age of 19, I have really been blessed by this amazing man with strong character and selfless love for me. To tell the truth, he has been the constant, steady one for all these years. It's quite a contrast to my erratic, ever-changing, skittish ways. He's never a slave to whims or schemes or trends. Jason flies over the hurdles of discontent that stumble me so.

You can imagine that when you mix a wacky chick with a stable guy, there can be danger of said wacky chick stumbling into the trap of either looking for satisfaction elsewhere or shutting down and just going through the motions. Over a year ago I could see myself drifting way too close to that shut down. It was about that time that God impressed upon my heart that it was time to start praying for my husband. Not just once in a while, but every single day.

So, I started- slowly but faithfully. I realized that when I'm talking to God about His child, I couldn't even start to disrespect either my Lord or J by asking God to fix the list of faults I thought I recognized in my husband. I knew better than that. I started to just pray for blessings for my husband, and thanking God for matching me with this incredible man. I began praying for my heart to change, and you will not believe what happened next! I'm not sure exactly when, but that simple love that I had for my husband because he's handsome, a good daddy, and does great things for me grew. It grew into this otherworldlykind of love... the kind only God can cultivate.

Jason hasn't really changed a bit. He's still good looking, he still cooks, he can still fix anything around the house, he's a fantastic kisser- really, any woman would be blessed to have a husband like him. But now my love for him transcends actions and appearances. My love is no longer conditional on things that are temporal, the things that are sure to fade with time. I now just find myself loving him for who he is... My Husband. The man who God chose for me. The man I intend to grow old with, to live, laugh, and love. It's been an honor to be able to pray for him every single day for the last year and it'll be my privilege to pray for him every single day for the rest of my life.

Jesus replied, “‘You must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. A second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’The entire law and all the demands of the prophets are based on these two commandments.”
Matthew 22:37-40

9 comments:

Jenn said...

Enjoyed your post - I pray for my husband daily, but I think I need to REALLY pray for him - more than just 'help him be an example for Christ and have a good at work'. Thanks for reminding me. :o)

truth said...

Ah, that is incredible. And funny, the past few days I've been thinking of posting something very similar. I love my husband more now than I ever have. I was where you are a few years ago-the amazing thing? After I was so content/happy, dh began changing in ways that I couldn't have even dreamed about. It just gets better and better every day.

T said...

that is so awesome! Keep encouraging women to pray for their men!

Ann said...

Another beautiful post. I like what you said about loving him because he is your husband, not because of the temporal things.

Blog Mama said...

hmmmm...I could really appreciate my husband more. thanks for sharing.

Scott said...

Ok, I know J personally and I have to say it. ewwwww!

PJ said...

Great blog! Prayer is the key. Amazing what it does for the Pray-er as well as the Pray-ee!

(Been married for 38 years! and it gets better all the time)

Katy said...

Soo sweet :) I got married young as well...at 19 and got pregnant soon after we were married. Made our first year rough considering i had horrible morning sickness...but here we are 7 yrs later and happy as ever with three kids! I am so blessed and feel more blessed as each day passes! "my cup runneth over!"
Have a great evening!

Kim Heinecke said...

nice post.
It really does make a difference. Before I married my husband I began keeping a prayer journal for him...for 2 years I wrote out all my prayers for him and then on our honeymoon I gave it to him. It was such a blessing to him!