Tuesday, November 27, 2007


This is my son, Spencer. I've talked about how he scares the bajeans out of me and how he makes me old. He's smart and funny and I just love him so much it sometimes physically hurts my heart.

Now, some of you are looking at those beautiful blue eyes the exact color of the ocean, and some of you are looking at his awful hair, wondering why I do not make him chop it all off. I would judge me too. I hate that hair.

However, being the way that I am, and knowing full well that I do not owe the internet an explanation, I still feel the need to fill ya'll in. At first, I let him grow out that mop because he asked respectfully to grow it out during the summer. Then, I let him keep it for a while longer because he again asked respectfully and I'm trying to encourage this behavior.

I longed for the days when my firstborn had short cute spiky hair... when I didn't want to constantly take a razor to his head, when his adorable freckles were out on display for all the world to see. You could enjoy his cute little cheeks and his beautiful skin so much better. He didn't look like a punk teenager one bit, as you can plainly see!

Fast forward to a conversation I had with him a little while ago. He told me how enjoyable it's been this last couple of years since he's had longer hair, because nobody asks, "what's in your ear?" or the classic, "What? Are you death? Can you see me?" And how he really likes that nobody feels the need to yell when they are talking to him, or stare at his ears.

That's when I realized that God had already answered a prayer I prayed around 9 years ago. That's when I begged Him to give my son a chance to live his teen years without being referred to by his classmates as, "Spencer, you know, that deaf boy?"

God is soooooooo good. Now, don't you just love that 'do?

He hath made every thing beautiful in his time: also he hath set the world in their heart, so that no man can find out the work that God maketh from the beginning to the end

Ecclesiastes 3:11


Mama P said...

That kid is gorgeous. And wow, he is stylin'. He might be deaf, but he'll be able to hear those girls screaming "Who is that hot kid!!!!??" every day of his life.

Kelly Malloy said...

I love his 'do!

Beverly said...

I just found your blog and I am so glad I did! I was reading Moments blog when she mentioned your blog. I decided to venture on over. Your posts are wonderful and really touch on the trials I suffer with also. Thanks for your insight! I don't have a blog of my own. I just don't think I can put things into words very well. But I wanted to let you know how much I have enjoyed the few posts I have read.

Have a very Merry Christmas!

Seminole, TX

Jenn said...

You should not feel you have to explain - in Texas all boys his age have hair that length. I agree with Mama P. that boy of yours is mighty handsome and the girls are going to flock to him (if they are not already).

Amber, thanks for sharing your heart and being so open with us in blog world. I am enjoying getting to know you.

Well - I am finally caught up on your blog! My poor kids are starving so back to being mom.

Becky said...

Awww, that's so true. God knew what he what your boy needed. If it's made his life s little easier, that's great!

I think our pastor and his wife had things right by allowing their two daughters to do whatever they wanted with their hair (seeing as Pastor's kids fall under so much judgement as it is, this was risky). They went through what many would think were some wild 'phases' over the years...but that was all cool and they both eventually outgrew it. They were just trying to find their 'footing'. Besides, as our pastor's wife said, "Hair grows back. You can afford to experiment with it."

As a parent, this is one of those calls you have to make in choosing which battles you'll fight...and you obviously chose the right one. Go you!

His Girl said...

Mama P- It's already begun. Try getting on an elevator with preteen girls and this boy... the girls giggle giggle giggle whisper giggle... and he doesn't have a clue. Isn't that how it always is?

Kelly- thanks ;)

Beverly- Thanks for the encouragement!

Jenn- all the kids in so cal have it too- he just looks so scroungy to me. whatcha gonna do?

Becky- I totally agree with the 'hair grows back' philosophy- thanks for the kind words :)

care-in said...

Beautiful! Thank you for making me rethink long hair!!

P.S. Thanks for stopping by my blog!

Gretchen said...

Funny...I just had to grin and bear it when my son had his head practically shaved. He had a mop of blonde, but wanted the fuzzy look, so fuzzy it is...And, he does look unique in the midst of his mop-top peers, so I think your son is right in style. :)