Monday, May 12, 2008

Trust & Obey



A long time ago, I promised you the God story behind my husband's graduation. I think the time has come, finally, and so here you are... a little late but still true.

I've told you that I'm crazy about my husband... I'm sure it's no surprise that with qualifications like this, we have a pretty great marriage. What may come as a shock to you is that, while he is a patient, kind man... I am a pretty dern bossy girl. Oh, I'm not just saying that. It's actually true. I remember being called bossy by the neighborhood kids, and by my brothers, and by teachers on report cards... this bossy thing has pretty much been one of my best and worst qualities my whole life. As a child, I was always the mom when we played house, the teacher when we played school, and the leader in follow the leader. It just never seemed to wear off as I aged.

One day, about two years ago, God started pressing on my heart that it was time to let go of my assumed role of leader of our household. WHAT? I argued. I know my Biblical role of submissive wife! I believe that the head of the home is God and that he has called husbands to lead families! I totally believe that!

...are you living it?

WELL! I kind of am! I tell the kids that Daddy is the boss! I tell others that my husband is the boss! Gone are my days of bossy bossy bossiness!!! My husband is the total head of our household!

oh, really? in what ways?

UMMMMM.... I let him be in charge of the cars, and I let him help plan vacations, and I let him make the decisions about....

you let him?

WELL ACTUALLY, the story is that the reason I don't follow is because he just won't lead. He's so kind, and gentle, and easygoing... to the extreme! Lord, if You'd just make him be the leader....

would you follow?

OF COURSE I WOULD!.... wouldn't I?

want to see?

I don't know! What do you have planned, Father? Where are we going? What path? How far?

His Girl, it's time to trust and obey....

(to be continued....)

Who among you fears the Lord
and obeys his servant?
If you are walking in darkness,
without a ray of light,
trust in the Lord
and rely on your God.
Isaiah 50:10


19 comments:

Anonymous said...

I know what you mean about this...it's challenging in a world where as women we are empowered and equal. My challenge is that my husband isn't a Christian and I think the ideal model that is described in the Bible falls down big time if the leader isn't submitted to God. So I lead our household and have become the 'boss' so that our home is as spirit led as it can be!

Sheryl said...

OH, no fair, you can't just leave me hangin'.

Sheryl

Deidre said...

Love it! I can so relate to every word. I have been accused more than once of being bossy myself (did I just admit that I am?). I have said many times, my husband just won't lead. I'm learning more and more to let him do so, and I like the new 'us' better.

Halfmoon Girl said...

ohhh, this is a good one. Many of us need to really think about the questions you asked yourself, 'cause it can be hard to let go and have them lead!

Gretchen said...

Hmmm...I'm not sure if I like you any more, what with a husband with so many skillz...Hm...;)

Yeah, you're right, we need to let them lead a dance or 2. We may just be surprised at the way God grows us.

I love that you made me think about this. xxxooogretchen

PJ said...

It's a hard lesson, isn't it? My husband and I are BOTH bossy. LOL Or, at least we both know EXACTLY what is RIGHT, and it's usually opposite. We had an interesting first 15 years or so!!! It's so hard to let him lead when you KNOW he's WRONG!! :)

MyShilohRanch said...

GOOD daughtie and bloggy girls!!! I KNOW that God WILL bless you as you grow in this area. I cannot speak from my OWN experience, unfortunately. :( BUT in most of the mature Godly marriages, that I have known, wives have said that this was one of the HARDEST lessons to learn and DO, but also reaped the biggest BLESSINGS! How could it NOT??? Our God is a God of order and when we line ourselves up with HIM, the blessings POUR forth!
Besides the whole TRUST and OBEY issue is really ALWAYS about our relationship with HIM!

LOOF

Lisa said...

Girl, you are all over my toes with this post. Thanks. I needed it!

Great word, sister.

Lisa :)

Becoming Me said...

Excellent post!! I so relate to this already

Alana said...

Oh, this is going to be GOOD. I can tell.

mer said...

Alright, you left me hangin', and I need you to finish 'cause I know this is goin' somewhere good!

Becky said...

Oh, man...To Be Continued?! Auuugh! (I don't do patience well, lol).

As always...the perfect verse.

Tina said...

love the beginning of the story already.
I can't wait to hear the rest.

DidiLyn said...

Oh, you are my sister from another mother...and our husbands must be brothers.
I have a need for you to finish this God story. :-)

truth said...

Can't wait to hear the rest of the story.

Shauna said...

Oh my! Way to hook me. I can't wait for the rest of the story!

Earen said...

I look forward to hearing the rest!

Gotta GROW with it said...

I can surely relate. I have a very easy going man too. Even when I "submit", he knows I'm squirming at some of his decisions. grr. I'm growing in this area too, but man oh man do I have a lot more to learn. For one, becoming an easy going person too! So, I'm all ears girl...

Jenn said...

This morning I am getting caught up on your "Trust & Obey" series. I am so glad that I get to read them all at once.

In my marriage I feel my husband is the leader. But the section where you said "I let him" do this and that made me really think. In some areas I "let him" do things. Thanks for making me think.