Tuesday, March 24, 2009

Love Your Neighbor....

Yesterday, I was up in my bedroom, feeling crummy and trying to find a new doctor who will actually SEE me so I can get this issue straightened out before I die this slow, painful monthly death, when I hear this saw, saw, saw, pound, pound, pound, CRASH!

My kids came running up to my room and tell me the neighbors are working on the fence, so they locked our bigfatbeagle, Sidney Bristow, up in the house. I peeked out the window, and saw THIS:


One of the beauties of living in a tract home (on a cul-de-sac, no less) is that we have on many sides of us VERYCLOSENEIGHBORS. And this particular verycloseneighbor decided that he would like to replace our common fence yesterday. Starting with tearing down the current one. WITHOUT TELLING ME.

I walked downstairs, deciding what to say or to do. I opened the door, marched right on out there and said, "Hello, Stranger In My BackYard! Whatcha doin?" *sweet smile.* Here's what went down after that:
SIMBY: "Oh, well, these posts are rotten so we have to replace the fence."
ME: "Ummmm. Do you know when you're going to be done? Just seeing how long to keep my beagle in my house."
SIMBY: "Well we have to blah, blah, blah. And we need to something, something something. Then, we'll have to wait for blibbety, blah, blah. And we think we're going to be able to be done as early as Saturday."
ME: "ummmm, today is Monday."
SIMBY: *blinks*
ME: "I'm just trying to figure out how to keep my dog out of your yard"
SIMBY: "Oh, that's okay if she comes over"
ME: "No, it's not"
SIMBY: *blinks* Well, I can put up some chicken wire.
ME: Okay... that's a start.
SIMBY: *blinks*
ME: "Well, I don't want to be the shrew here, but in the future, when you're going to do something like this, you might want to come and knock on a person's door and say, 'Hey, don't walk nekkid in your kitchen 'cause I'm going to be standing 3 feet from your window.' or 'Hey, lock up your beagle 'cause I don't want to be bitten when she's protecting your yard.' or 'Hi! I'm the stranger who lives behind you and I'll be here all week."
SIMBY: *blinks*
ME: *storms in house*
Self-control, self control, self CONTROL.

Compassion, mercy, grace.... love...
You have heard the law that says, ‘Love your neighbor’ and hate your enemy. But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you! In that way, you will be acting as true children of your Father in heaven. For he gives his sunlight to both the evil and the good, and he sends rain on the just and the unjust alike. If you love only those who love you, what reward is there for that? Even corrupt tax collectors do that much. If you are kind only to your friends, how are you different from anyone else? Even pagans do that.
Matthew 5:43-47

Lord, help me to be graceful and loving to my neighbors. Help me to remember your willingness to love ME, even when I am inconsiderate to others. Let me remember that my behaviors affect those around me, and forgive me for the times I've neglected to think before I move. Help me use Your grace to be kind to these people who are making me so mad... and please keep my beagle safe in her makeshift dog run until we can build her one that's more secure.
In Jesus' Name...



Halfmoon Girl said...

so... are they paying for the new fence themselves??? That would have been my question. If they are- that would be a silver lining, I guess. I had monthly problems too and had a procedure that took care of everything but that hormonal, I cry easily, feeling. email me if you want more info:)

Melissa @ Breath of Life said...

Oh, friend! How crazy is that?! Hoping things get better, and your new doc is just what you need.

Love ya!

Shanda said...

Oh, wow! Did they pay for the first fence by themselves? Maybe they felt they had a right to do it without checking with you all but, wow...why do things like this always happen when the husbands aren't around? ;)

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Carpoolqueen said...
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Carpoolqueen said...

Take two. And repeating "I shall not make snarky remarks about the neighbor on His Girl's lovely comments page."

Truly sorry about your situation. And hoping you'll handle it better than I would.

Aspiemom said...

My first thought was "And who is paying for this???"

Close neighbors don't ever seem to be a good thing. Unthoughtful ones are the worst.

Hope you find a new dr. soon who helps you. I'm looking for a new one, too, since my Internist left the practice. Humpf!

Gretchen said...

The monthly and the fence? I deem it too much for anyone.

Miso sorry.

Methinks you are a paragon of self control. Not that I believe in witches, but I might've been riding my broom. Just sayin.

Andrea Frazer - Pass the Zoloft said...

Wow, that's nut. I guess good fences do make good neighbors. Luck and love to you on that one.

lisasmith said...

I have to ask...does your new topsy turvy schedule have anything to do with dog chasing???
(I only ask because my dogs only picked week 40 of all four pregnancies and weeks 0-6 of my newborn's life to decide to live outside the fence.)

My real nonfunny serious comment is this makes me love you more!!! Honestly, one of my current prayers is that God would make me loving and gentle in sickness and well, that time of the month. You bless me.

I popped over from Sheryl's blog because your comment to her blessed me so much. You even encourage me when you're talking to someone else.

Praying for Mr. Neighbor and you(who is simby? i'm real slooooow)

mandy said...

You're a feisty one, aren't you? :)

care-in said...

Maybe I will have more grace on our new upstairs neighbors than I did on our last ones.

mer@lifeat7000feet said...

oh dear...i'm so sorry. how has sydney the beagle been this week, and more importantly, is the fence finished???