Monday, December 07, 2009

All is calm, all is bright. (a long rambly post about topics which are barely related)

Oh, my friends, I wish I could take a picture of my view from this spot right here on my couch, but then I'd have to get up and I just can't want to. It's raining outside and I have the drapes pulled wide open. My tree is sparkly and my fireplace is burning. My son is working on homework next to me on his laptop, the beagle Sydney Bristow is sleeping on her dogbed, the girls are in the other room writing another one of their 'chapter books.' There's dinner in the crockpot (pulled chicken sandwiches) and I'm listening to Christmas music with my favorite blanket wrapped around my legs and my laptop on my lap. Upstairs I have a new book waiting for me to read tonight... and it's a bonus that it's written by the husband of a dear friend. I am totally jammified. I have this wonderful sensation that all is calm, all is bright.

Last night my brother and mom and my sister-in-love came over for fondue at our home. It was so nice for all of us to be able to get together and dip healthy food into unhealthy elements to make delicious creations. We had a Pesto Fondue, lowfat fondue, a steak fondue, a tempura fondue and a chocolate fondue. My kids were so happy, the menfolk were so happy, and the chicks- we were so happy. Really, how can you go wrong with cheese and chocolate? I highly recommend this activity! Such a good time!

I have noticed that my mood lately has gotten considerably better as the weather cools down, and the lights go up, and the days grow shorter. I know that it's really unfair to say that it's cold here when it's a balmy 43 degrees right now, but it's just cold enough to warrant cute boots and warm sweaters and NOT SWEATING. By the way, in case you're new here, my favorite weather is NOT SWEATING. Not sure why I'm here in the hotter-than-the-sun Inland Empire, but I do know this: I am REALLY enjoying this season.

There are changes afoot in the His Girl home. I blame it at least partly on hormones. (Not mine...I try not to blog about those in respect for my teensy male reader population) but those of the people formerly known as babies who live in my house. For example, the girls, once adorable toddlers, are now preteens in full force. For us, that means very very fun and sweet and intelligent and mature ladies one minute and OH MY GOSH WHAT ON EARTH JUST HAPPENED? emotional wrecks the next.

Also, My son, (who used to be the little boy who loved his Momma best of all) now has a girlfriend. A GIRLFRIEND! How did we get here already??? We are all as a family learning about trust and independence and privacy.It's a delicate balance and though it's really giving me grey hairs (and an emotional breakdown or two)- I have to confess I am loving this stage of life. I like working through these big life issues and getting glimpses of who my children are becoming. And though these early teen years are not even close to how perfect I hoped they'd be, they're nowhere near as bad as I feared. 

The best part is that while I am helping my children learn in this new phase of life, I am learning more about God in the process. I'm constantly mindful of my Heavenly Father as I talk to this boy about why we have rules and why we expect so much from him. I'm increasingly more aware of how unpleasant it sounds to God when I whine and argue and spaz out as I am trying to teach my girls about controlling emotions and letting things go.  I am blessed by His forgiveness and awed by His willingness to give a second chance, again and again. I'm discovering if I open my eyes, I can see God around every corner... and I think that's pretty cool.

Okay, this post has gone on far too long. I hope you found a little nugget for yourself in this rambly post today. Be blessed. Remember Jesus. Love without hesitation this Christmas.

Such things were written in the Scriptures long ago to teach us. And the Scriptures give us hope and encouragement as we wait patiently for God’s promises to be fulfilled.
Romans 15:4

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11 comments:

care-in said...

I hate sweaty weather too! I love your perspective though!

Melissa Stover said...

what changes? you've got me all curious.

His Girl said...

Melissa- nothing other than hormones raging everywhere in this house. I went back and changed the wording a bit to make it more obvious that it was puberty that I was referring to. haha.

Carpool Queen said...

Hmmmm....trying to teach my kids not to whine to me and I do the same to God.....

Love your cold buckets of water in my face. I know they're lovingly splashed.

lisasmith said...

my house resembled yours tonight :) and now...all are asleep but me. sweet, blessed silence. ahhhhh, i love this night too.

Melissa @ Breath of Life said...

I love this time of year, too...the twinkling lights and the coziness of it all. (I especially love getting up while it's still dark out and having my quiet time with Jesus with the tree on) Of course, it helps when it's not sweating weather! We're supposed to be in the 30's here this weekend. WOO-HOO!

Right there with you on the hormones. So right there with you.

Becky said...

Love perfect hearth-and-home type evenings...fondue...girl--WHAT??? They get GIRLFRIENDS? **faints dead away**

His Girl Amber said...

THANK YOU BECKY... was hoping someone would freak out with me!

Gretchen said...

Yes, we're on the Puberty Express here, too. And we need a very big God to cover all the hormones in this house. Good thing He can. And he'll cover yours, too. As usual, your writing moves me so much , Amber.

Dawn said...

i've come from melissa's fan post :) it's so nice to meet you! i look forward to getting to knwo you better... although already i think we have a lot in common: inviting people over so i will clean my house, loving non-sweaty weather... gosh... there were a few more things but i can't remember :) anyway... hope your day is full of smiles :)

Andrea Frazer - Pass the Zoloft said...

I always learn when I read from you. And I always get a bit sad, because we are so alike in our crazy adoration of our kids. And just thinking about Dominic with a girlfriend tears me apart. Because of course I won't get in the way (not healthy) but man, my heart will break that he'll be holding someone's hand other than Mama's. I love him so much it's crazy and NO HUSSY will be good enough for him! (See? That last part? Have to curb it. Totally. Must. Curb. It.)