The sequence of this study was well designed. By the time we got to this portion, I was ready! Is this offensive to you God? Let's get rid of it! Am I sinning? Remove it! Take it out! I don't want it! I want to be free of these burdens! I want to follow Jesus! Go!
And then I started reading the scriptures:
- Herein do I exercise myself, to have always a conscience void of offense toward God, and toward me. Acts 24:16
- So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, then come and offer your gift. Matthew 5:23-24
However, everything isn't as simple as just going out and righting wrongs, and I found out through multiple conversations with ladies in the study that each of us had some specific points to consider. Between us, we wondered:
- What if the person I've sinned against does not know I said this horribly mean thing about them?
- What if the way I've sinned against someone was in my heart and not out loud? I'm afraid that confessing this to them will cause this person pain/cause them to stumble.
- What if there will be consequences when this person hears that I sinned in this way?
- What if I've already apologized, but the person still holds this over my head? Do I apologize again and again?
- What if the person I've offended has expressly requested no contact from me/won't meet with me/won't answer my calls? Our study guide advises against letters or emails. How far should I go to make peace?
- What if I feel confident I haven't sinned, but know for a fact that someone is still offended by my words/actions. Can I make peace without compromising my commitment to be authentic and honest with God and others?
Do you have a scripture-based opinion on one of the above 'special circumstances?' Please share!
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